I was amazed at the response I got from ‘How To rest and Not Feel Guilty’. I thought I would go into it with a bit more detail on how we can actually make sure we get time to rest often enough so that we don’t reach breaking point and then feel completely guilty.
Most of us will chill out at some point in our week. And yes, we all have weeks where every second is filled with a to-do list longer than the great wall of China, but those are the weeks where it becomes paramount to find time to recover.
So here’s some ideas on how to get ultimate rest each week.
1. Schedule It In
Learning to schedule in rest is the only sure way to actually make it happen each week. Spend 10 minutes before bed on Sunday night going through the week and scheduling in your time for rest. I try to keep to the same time each week, but not everyone’s schedule may allow for that. The most important thing is that you schedule it in every week.
2. Do Something You Enjoy
Like I said before, we all have different capacities and some of us reach our limits a lot quicker than others. One person’s rest may be another person’s worst nightmare. Make sure you do something that makes you feel relaxed. Not all of us need to take a nap to recharge, but don’t spend that precious ‘down time’ scrubbing your kitchen floor. It may be just having a couple hours of alone time one morning a week, a night out with friends to get in some proper adult girl time, or having a designated lie-in morning where you don’t have to make breakfast for the kids.
3. Learn Something New
So often in motherhood we can lose our joy and passion because we’ve stopped learning or trying new things. Life can become quite repetitive with babies and it can squeeze all our creativity out of us. Take up a new hobby like knitting or crochet, join a book club, try a new sport or learn a new skill like photography. Stretching our minds and getting creative is incredibly therapeutic and excellent exercise for our brains. Keep that grey matter moving!
4. Get More Sleep
You probably saw this one coming, but we need sleep to improve our mood and generate necessary hormones, to heal and strengthen our bodies and improve brain function. These all seem like pretty important things in our lives, but most of the time we simply don’t get enough sleep to keep our bodies functioning properly. With 4-5 hours of broken sleep most nights no wonder we’re irritable, have headaches and find it hard to cope with crying, teething toddlers! Set your alarm for 30 minutes before you want to go to bed to get into the habit of going to bed at the same time each night and make sure you get at least 7 hours of sleep.
5. Have Fun With Your Family
This may seem out of place, but when we get stressed we can sometimes back ourselves into a corner. We can easily withdraw emotionally when life gets full-on and go into survival mode. This kills the love in our lives. Don’t forget to enjoy your family. When you feel like escaping from your family – don’t. Make a plan to do something relaxing together like going for a walk through the woods and coming home to hot chocolate and a bath, go on a date with your husband and spend lots of time kissing. This may just sound like a lot of work, but believe me, it’s therapy heaven! You’ll remember why you love the people in your life and you’ll get the best out of them.
I hope this gives you some ideas on how to create time in your life to rest. Share your ideas, what’s your favourite way to rest and recharge??