In our generation we see all over the telly how women are smarter, braver, quicker and better than men and that they just can’t get out of bed without our help. As wives we are the helpmeet, aid, companion and partner to our husbands. But have we taken this too far? Are we getting carried away with our skills of meeting needs and filling in the gaps? When I was reading through the Old Testament I saw three wives who married Godly husbands and who God had great plans for. They loved God and their husbands but they took their role of wife too far and caused huge ripple effects in the lives of their families from trying to make things happen in their own strength without trusting in God and their husbands.
Sarah and Abraham were promised a child at an age past her fertility. Sarah got tired of waiting and decided to take things into her own hands and convinced her husband to sleep with her maid to give birth to a son. Now Abraham did have a son, Ishmael, but in his wife’s way and not God’s. We are still living with the turmoil of Sarah’s interference with God’s plan.
Rebekah had twin sons but loved one more than the other. God had told Rebekah that her sons would be two nations that would always be rivals and that the younger son would serve the oldest. But when her husband chose the oldest son, Esau, to receive the blessing she took things into her own hands. She planned a plot to deceive her blind husband to pass the blessing of God to her favourite son, Jacob. There was turmoil in her sons lives for over a decade and Esau’s wives gave her and Isaac misery.
Rachel was a beautiful women well loved by her husband Jacob. But she was so jealous for her husbands love because he was also married to her sister. She despised her sister for having four sons and she was unable to give birth. She told her husband to give her children or else she would die, When her husband told her that he wasn’t God and that He was the one stopping her from having children she told her husband to have sex with her maid to give her children. After years God gave her a son – Joseph. Joseph’s brothers beat him and sold him into slavery out of jealousy. Now where did they get that from??
These wives loved their husbands and loved God, so how could they mess up their marriage and families so much? By trying to fulfil the promises of God in their own strength and in their own timeline rather than being patient and submissive. What a lesson for us to learn. Submission is Godly. It is not to keep us quiet, de-valued or enslaved. It’s to protect us, strengthen us and receive all the blessing God has for us.
If you’ve received a promise, but it just seems like it’s never going to happen or it’s just plain impossible – just wait. Don’t take things into your hands. Don’t do your wifely duty of meeting the need, fulfilling the vision and filling the gap. Wait on God’s timing and remember that when we are weak (impatient, frustrated, and fed up) our God’s strength is perfect.* Don’t give in to the temptation of jumping the gun and dragging the whole family with you in the process. Wait, and keep waiting until his strength is made perfect and his will is revealed in full. Listen to your husband, submit in love and wait on the Lord.