And that’s just what they’ll do! One of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you.
Has your child reached the age yet where they like to try on all your shoes? My kids love putting on my shoes, but they get a real kick out of trying on my boots. It takes them about 10 minutes to get them on and another 10 to try and stand up in them, but boy are they proud of themselves! And because this is such a huge achievement they absolutely must show you. “Mummy, look! Mummy, look! MUMMMMMMMMYYYYYYYY!”
Not only do our children love to try on our shoes, they like to try on our roles as parents as well. Pretty much as soon as they can form sentences they will try to tell you what to do. And sometimes it happens so seamlessly from goo-goo ga-ga to GET ME SOME MILK that we don’t even realise that it’s an issue. Listen to your child. Do they speak as you would like to be spoken to? If they were 5, 15 or 25 would you like them saying that to you? Start as you want them to go on.
The first word I have always taught my kids is please. I start to teach them this word from around 6 months when they start to point at things to tell me what they want. And yes, I know they can’t say anything remotely close to the word please but they can make the sound ‘p‘ or ‘s‘ which is exactly what they all did. So that by the time they were one they could ask me for something by always saying ‘please‘ first. It sounds so simple, but it is soooooooooo easy to miss.
Us mothers are very bilingual. Only we can understand the complete nonsense that is coming out of our babies mouth. And if you have more than one child, well you just got a whole lot smarter! But don’t forget that whilst we’re translating our babies needs we need to be instilling Godly character and always be instructing them on how they speak and behave, “Ask nicely please, how do we speak to each other? Please may I have…”. Teach your child to speak as you would like to be spoken to.
Another hhhhuuuuuuggggggeeeee issue is HOW your child speaks to you. Are they asking with a good attitude? Oh come on, do you really have to push it that far??? Oh, but yes I do. How they say it is just as important as what they say. These are big lessons in life that we need to start teaching at a seriously young age.
Remember you are your child’s biggest role model. Absolutely everything you say AND do is being watched 24/7 and they will reenact this at some point in their learning. Role play is part of a child’s learning process. They will play a mummy to a little baby, they will play a teacher to a group of students (who do absolutely everything they say and will always have at least one naughty child to tell off frequently). This can be a wake up call for us. How do we speak to others? The person they’re going to see you talking to the most and they’re going to learn from the most is how you speak to your husband! Be warned, it’s absolutely essential you act AND speak respectfully to your husband (if not all the time then at least try really, really, really hard in front of the kids).
It’s never to soon or too late to start teaching Godly character to your children. And believe me, “One of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you!” But let me show you this,
I’ve put on my boots just to show you how well they fit me. These boots fit me, not my children. As much as they love to ‘try them on’ that’s all they can do in them. They can’t actually get in anywhere in them. In the words of my very wise and amazing parents (the great Dan and Nori Chesney https://lifegrouponline.com): You are the parent and they are the child! Repeat that to yourself every time you feel you’re losing your nerve. You are the adult and they are the child. Don’t let them walk all over you. Put on your boots! Literally, if you need to, and remind them who gets to walk around in them. Obviously, don’t literally walk all over child – but model and train your child in the way that they should go so that even when they’re old they won’t forget it (Proverbs 22:6). You can do it! You are the parent and they are the child. Make sure what you teach them today lasts forever, in the words of Buzz Lightyear, “To infinity and BEYOND!”