Most days I look pretty much exhausted, chubby in the waist, with vomit on my shoulders and back. Having four children in under 5 years left little time and money to my appearance and wardrobe. My maternity clothes were years old and very well-worn and my post-pregnancy wardrobe was made entirely of hand-me-downs from my mother and a few other people. Needless to say, my husband hated my clothes and my general shoddy appearance. So after baby number four I just happened to have some vouchers that I decided to use on some brand-new clothes. The clothes were dirt cheap but the smile on my husbands face every time I wore them – priceless.
Now some may think it is irrelevant, flippant or even sinister of a man to judge a person by their appearance, but I would like to challenge you to read Proverbs 31 ‘The Wife of Noble Character’. In verse 22 it says that she is clothed in fine linen and purple. You may be thinking, “Well purple is just not my colour,” but what it’s getting at is that she dressed in her best to make her husband proud. I once read a book on marriage where the author even went as far to say that how you dress is a reflection on how much your husband loves you, OUCH! That’s a wake up call. Do I look like I’m loved, appreciated, cared for and respected by my husband?
My husband ALWAYS wants me to look my best, but especially if I’m leaving the house. My first year of motherhood my mother took precious time to teach me how to be a wife, mother and homemaker. Of all the things she taught me the one lesson I have never, ever forgotten is that when my husband comes through the door at the end of the day from a long, hard (I see you rolling your eyes, but stay with me) day at work I should be wearing clean, attractive clothing (she once made me change out of my favourite Gap jumper that was perfectly clean), a squirt of perfume and fresh lipstick! Now lipstick might not be your thing but it works wonders on my face.
I am so, so grateful she took the time to teach me that simple yet oh so important lesson because when I make that extra effort for my husband each day he gets excited to walk through the front door each day to see me and he knows I still love him. And lets remember, my husband came into my life before my kids. I need to keep my marriage in high priority. Children come and go, but my husband stays forever.
How do you look when your husband comes home from work? Do you think making an effort in your appearance would improve your marriage? Let me know!