No mother wakes up and thinks, “I can’t wait to change 10 nappies today!” When we dream of having beautiful, well-behaved, God fearing children we have absolutely no clue that we’ll be spending years of our lives with sick, food,urine, and other unmentionables, on our clothes, in our hair or under our nails. Or that we’ll be listening to crying for a majority of each day. Or that you won’t get good sleep or lie-in’s until we’re a senior citizen.
So how do we handle the transition from glowing pregnancy to utter disillusionment??
I never dreamed of baking and cooking every single day, of cleaning until my hands hurt, wearing aprons, of sleepless nights (years, actually) and utter, utter exhaustion. Or how about keeping a huge smile on your face when you’ve sliced a good layer of skin off from the peeler so your children don’t all start screaming and crying. Or how about keeping a calm, cool and collected manner and tone when your child is shouting, throwing or possibly even hitting you.
But this is the daily reality I find myself in. But because I have been blessed with four beautiful, healthy children and have a husband who loves me completely, I go to bed with a smile on my face.
Don’t be afraid to embrace the change in your life when you become a mother. You may be in total shock at who you have become and your early dreams of conquering the world are disappearing, but there is so much more joy in childbearing/rearing if you give yourself wholly to it and let the rest take care of itself. You may not recognise yourself but from my experience becoming a mother has made me a better woman. Having a family is part of your calling, not a distraction from it. Embrace your family and take them on the journey with you. Your children will teach you lessons you had long forgotten and bring up warning lights in areas of your life you didn’t know were there. Whether you can believe it or not, you are now a mother and so dive in and give it your best shot. It’s absolutely worth it and you’ll be surprised how much you love it.
Love is sacrificial and if you truly love your husband and children then you’ll be willing to give up the ‘things’ that you love because you love them more. If you surrender to God’s plan for your life you’ll find a whole new level of grace for this season. And, boy, do we need it! Let go of that ‘perfect’ life you once aimed for and start focusing on God’s perfect love for your family.
“Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God – this is your true and proper worship.” Romans 12:1 NIV